Adoption

Today I had a discussion with a coworker about adoption. It ended with me again feeling frustrated about the adoption culture in this country. It seems that adoption is basically an after thought - if it is a thought at all.

Some questions I'm pondering from our conversation ...

Why do people here only consider adoption after they tried ages to have a baby naturally or through IVF?

Why would it be better for a dually heritage child to be placed with a couple with one person who is dual heritage (even if they are not of the same heritage as he child and potentially different sides of the world) rather than a white couple?

Why is it looked down upon to have a child that it not the same color as you?

Why do people think you are strange or a "better person" if you would consider adopting as a first choice rather than a last resort?

Why would you put a Christian couple at the bottom of the stack because of your own bad experience with religion?


I am passionate about adoption. The adoption culture here is unexplainable and I struggle to articulate my thoughts about it clearly.

Rightfully so, there is a big push on matching a child's identity as closely as possible. But at the end of the day, the child is being given a new identity with new parents because there was something about their biological parent's identity that was not meeting the child's need (in the cases I deal with at least). Shouldn't we trust the new parents to shape the child's identity and provide them an understanding of their birth identity - even if the couple does not reflect that identity ....


This new guy was sent to sort out the adoption crisis in England.


Here is a link about the changing law for mixed race adoption that I found.

I do hope and pray there is change in the adoption mindset the future...